90 Day's Matt and Amani Clarify What It Means to Be in a Throuple: 'Didn’t Want People to Think It Was Sister Wives' (Exclusive) (2025)

Matt and Amani Jlassi are revealing what it's like to be in the first throuple in 90 Day Fiancé history.

The husband and wife recently sat down with PEOPLE to discuss adding a third to their relationship after being married for ten years and sharing two children. After meeting their now-girlfriend Any Aguirre during a vacation to Mexico, Amani says there was an insistent connection, and “the rest is history.”

“It was never a plan where we were like, ‘Okay, right now we are searching for a third. We want to have a throuple,’” she explains, although she says they had previously spoken about exploring that concept. “They say the best things in life aren't even planned. They just happen, and it's one of those."

"Of course my husband always knew I was bisexual and I've dated more women than men in my life, to be honest," she notes. "And throughout our marriage, I always have been upfront and I was like, ‘I don't think me being with you forever is something I see as sustainable.’ Because it's true, I always still look at women.”

“We had one conversation and we just clicked,” Amani adds of being set up with Any by a bartender during the trip. “You know when you know. You feel like you know somebody longer even though we couldn't [speak] the [same] language so well. I was very comfortable with her. And then she talked to Matt. It was very, very natural and comfortable. I don't think we felt that way with anybody before.”

When things started to get more serious with Any, Amani says she wanted to share their journey with others. From personal experience, there aren’t many stories of throuples in the media, so she thought she could help be an example to those wondering about the lifestyle.

“That's one of my goals. I hope to inspire women in my situation who have kids and are married — it's not over for you,” she says. “You can still be that version of yourself. If you're curious, you can still be that. You just have to find a way to make it work in your life.”

Still, putting their unconventional relationship on TV doesn’t come without worries. Both Matt and Amani point out that there are many misconceptions about being in a throuple.

“I just didn't want people to think it was Sister Wives,” Amani admits, referring to the TLC series about a Mormon polygamist family. “That's my nightmare.”

“I mean it's still polygamy,” Matt acknowledges. “In some kind of way, there's that dynamic in the beginning of most throuples, when they get into a small thing with a special someone, that special someone sees other people. So there is that dynamic. I get why people have that association, but there is a definitive line where it changes.”

The biggest difference between a Sister Wives-type of arrangement and a throuple is the three are in a relationship with each other, not just the man, they say.

“[Sister Wives] serve around the man,” Amani says, before joking, “But no, they serve around me, honey.”

“She's the attention seeker,” Matt chimes in. “She gets the attention. If I'm not showing her attention, she goes to Any. If Any's not showing her attention, she'll just go to me.”

At first, Amani says she and Any would spend alone time outside of the throuple, and now, Matt and Any are also taking time for themselves. With Any still in Mexico, it is also natural for Matt and Amani to have their alone time, but the dynamic is something they are still figuring out.

“I would like to say there's zero jealousy in this throuple,” Amani laughs. “We're trying. I think you have to watch the episodes, but you will see some of that unveil. But as I was going through the emotions, I made sure to communicate with them and we established rules and boundaries based on that. I'm the weird one because I'm like a voyeur. It turns me on to see my husband with my girlfriend, so that works out for me. I get to fulfill my fantasy.”

Looking ahead, Matt and Amani will need to legally divorce so one of them can marry Any and she can receive her K-1 visa to come to the United States. Amani says although she feels sad about it sometimes, she is focusing on the bigger picture.

“Divorce is a chapter to open something great in life,” she says. “That's how we try to look at it.”

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